One morning a young woman saw her neighbour hanging the wash outside. 鈥淭hat laundry is not very clean,鈥� she said. 鈥淪he doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.鈥� Her銆赌husband looked on, but remained silent. For many days that followed the young woman made similar comments.
One month later the woman was surprised to see nice clean wash on the line銆赌and said to her銆赌husband: 鈥淟ook, she has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this.鈥� The husband said, 鈥淚 got up early this morning and cleaned our銆赌飞颈苍诲辞飞蝉.鈥�
Pope Francis recalls an event about how we see beauty in ourselves: 鈥淚 remember the actress Anna Magnani (1908 - 1973). One time, when she wasn鈥檛 young anymore, they told her that she should have her wrinkles removed so she could be more successful in cinema. And she said, 鈥楴o, no, no! It took me many years to get these wrinkles. I鈥檓 not going to touch them.鈥� They were like a treasure for her,鈥� Pope Francis related.
Pope Francis at 81 years was asked what image he has of himself. The pontiff answered by explaining his daily method for not falling into vanity and narcissism. He warned against the danger of evaluating ourselves based on what he called the 鈥渕irror assessment.鈥�
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鈥淒ealing with the issue of image, there鈥檚 always a kind of confusion鈥� We have an image of ourselves. But when the mirror starts to be part of your life, you begin to dialogue with the mirror in an attitude that is almost鈥攐r completely鈥攏arcissistic and you end up with a pathology of self-referentiality.鈥�
Using our mirror image as a self reference can mislead us. 鈥淚 think we have to be very careful when we seek to judge or assess ourselves鈥攙ery careful not to fall into 鈥榤irror assessment.鈥� It鈥檚 going to deceive us; it鈥檚 always going to deceive us!鈥� Pope Francis said.
Pope Francis suggests we look inside ourselves daily. Then we judge ourselves on the basis of what we do or the attitudes we have. As a Jesuit, Pope Francis does a daily examination of conscience using the following guideline:
1. Put yourself in God鈥檚 presence. Giving thanks for God鈥檚 immense love.
2. Pray for the grace of understanding how God is acting in your life.
3. Review what happened during your day. Remember specific moments and your feelings during those moments.
4. Reflect on what you did, said, and thought at those moments. Did they draw you closer to or away from, God.
5. Think about upcoming events, and how you can collaborate more effectively with God鈥檚 plan. Possibly, make a specific resolution, and conclude with an 鈥淥ur Father.鈥�
There is much we can learn from the Pope鈥檚 self image: 鈥淚 think I am a sinner whom God has loved very much, and continues to love. But my complete concrete image is something I find day by day looking at how I behave, the decisions I make, the mistakes I make 鈥� and it鈥檚 an image that progresses, as life progresses.鈥�
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The Pope invites us to 鈥渁ccept鈥� the image of our successes, our failures, the image of our health and sickness, the image of a short life and of a long life. Accept the image of each day, and correct what we can.鈥� (from Aleteia December 19, 2017)
